Embracing NOW!

One time I was speaking with a client about living present moment. This client very assuredly stated, “I know I live present moment! As a matter of fact, I live so in the moment that I don’t even plan for the future.”  Well, we definitely had found the subject matter for the rest of his session. . . and it brings to light for all of us that idea of living present moment but also creating vs. reacting.  My client thought he was living present moment but was sitting with me because he didn’t understand why his life felt so chaotic and reactionary.  At first glance, the idea of living present moment seems out of focus with creating or dreaming about one’s future, but in truth they are very much in alignment with one another.
To live in the present simply means we are mentally, emotionally and physically in sync with every action, every experience and every set of words we speak.  It means not drifting off to a fantasy world when we are bored with a lecture, but instead acknowledging that we are bored and deciding in that moment how to move forward with that experience.  Living present moment creates vibrant experiences because we are impacted in all of our senses, and we are keenly aware that what is going on is not linked to the past nor the future in terms of what we are feeling, but is simply now.  It is from living presently that we determine what it is we want next.  In fact, if we don’t dream and create and focus on what we want then our present moments are filled with constant reaction, and that’s the meat of my topic today.
Take a moment, if you will, to think about something that is going on in your life that you don’t like or that you want to have show up another way.  Think about how much you wish that thing were different — even if it’s a positive or good thing like wanting a new home, job or car.  How much time or energy do you spend resisting what is?  Let me give you an example.  A friend is in a job she very much dislikes.  The job has provided clarity, stability and income, but drains her physically and emotionally.  She knows she needs out, but instead of embracing what is and spending her energy creating what she wants, she finds herself wallowing in the daily misery that she calls work.  She tells friends how bad it is and she seeks other jobs with disdain for her current employment in her heart….it is as if she is holding back an ocean of negative waves and turning only occasionally to see what it is she really wants.  We were talking recently and, being able to relate on some levels to her dissatisfaction, I suggested that she just let the day pass through her instead of constantly pushing against what was occurring at work:  to be present with what is–in all of its chaos and disharmony;  to let the energy of the day pass through her instead of getting stopped up within her; to let go of the idea that she needs to “stop the daily train wreck” that she foresees as she drives into work.  And then, to take all of the energy that she is using to try and stop the process and turn it towards imagining what it will feel like to have the job she really wants.  As the daily mishaps and frustrations simply pass by, she takes any information that is helpful to her and then focuses on what it is she really wants.  She is present enough to deal with what comes up, but instead of reacting to it, she just assesses how it feels as it passes through her.  Then she can make a present moment choice about how to deal with it.  In the meantime, all of that angst energy that was making her so tired is converted to actively envisioning what it is she now knows she wants to experience in her career.
I’m happy to say that when I spoke with her only a few days later she was finding that although the players, demand and chaos had not changed, she was reacting to it differently.  She was less drained and was feeling excited about moving forward into the kind of career she really wanted.  She also mentioned that this new way of dealing with what’s going on now while putting positive energy towards what she wants (instead of resisting what she doesn’t want) was already having profound results in other parts of her life.  You see, if we are reacting in any part of our life, chances are we are reacting in all of it with only glimmers of peace or creative flow.
I invite you to take a few moments today and just pay attention to where you are, what thoughts are running through your mind, what dreams do you have on the back burner for when you’re done reacting?  What one thing can you stop resisting and start creating?

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About Teri Johnson

I have been a life coach and meditation teacher since 1999. More importantly, for me, I have had the pleasure of being a mom for 20 years. But what really defines me is my passion for living an authentic life. I have a friend who calls me "Buddhist with and edge." I'm not a practicing Buddhist, but it sums up my approach to life quite nicely. Thank you for stopping by and ENJOY!
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2 Responses to Embracing NOW!

  1. peliguin says:

    I just love words that motivate, even if the road ahead has a large rock on it!

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